Etiquette 101
Most of those who are friends with trans people will think that this post will be pretty common sense. However, I feel like it is necessary to write about.
Never start statements with “I love [enter trans person's name here], but—” and then say something incredibly transphobic. Especially when the said trans person is not there, and the said parties are at a conference focusing on trans issues.
I feel tokenized by those kinds of statements. Like the fact that I am their trans friend, negates all other acts of transphobia and what they actually think and feel about trans people.
The fact that the said transphobic dialogue occurred while I was not there (and likely would not have occurred if I was there) was even more telling of how the people involved knew what they were were saying was a) transphobic b) insulting c) and something that I would have personally taken offense of.
What makes things worse, is that I am very open and honest about my trans experience, and I am willing to answer questions and confront transphobic statements and tell people that what they are saying is indeed offensive. So when people, who I have had these kind of conversations with, decide to not only conveniently forget things I have told, them, but bash trans people behind my back (dually stating me as the exception), I am naturally going to be pretty upset about it.
Hooray for a reminder that not all LGB people are your friends.
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I kinda feel like that’s just etiquette in general. But maybe I’m just “aware” and conscientious.
i loled so hard at the last line. i use to do lgb protest on the day of silence at my highschool being completely straight then got pissed off by the amount of back stabbing and drama behind it all that had nothing to do with anyones sexuality or gender they identified with. amen for common sense.