Call for Submissions!
Not sure how I feel about the title of this endeavor, but at any rate I figured it was worth posting – even for simple discussion sake.
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Call for Submissions: How to F*ck a Trans Woman
by Jiz Lee ~ July 2, 2009
http://jizlee.com/wordpress/
A friend just passed this along to me, and it sounds like an EXCELLENT
project. Please take a look and forward to anyone you think may be
interested:
Sex with trans women can be a challenging experience for new partners,
and even for the trans woman in question. We learn things about our
bodies as we go because there’s no instruction manual, no guidebook
for how we’re supposed to be fucking. All sorts of assumptions about
our bodies and how we have sex or fuck can keep potential lovers wary
or from expressing the interest they feel for us. And we don’t all
fuck the same way, so even if someone has been with a few of us their
experiences might be totally different and not helpful to the next,
and the next.
It can be hard to name our bodies in ways that we feel are authentic
but that also feel sexy. It can be difficult to claim our bodies and
our pleasure for ourselves when we might not feel as much ownership
for them as we would like. Sometimes, at least for me, I can feel very
frustrated trying to explain myself through metaphor, analogy,
and comparison because there simply is no vocabulary to explain my
body the way I want to explain it.
I want to start a serious conversation between trans women to share
information about how we’re fucking, no matter *who* we’re fucking or
what fucking means to us. I’m not naive enough to believe that this
hasn’t been attempted before, but I am humble enough to admit that I
haven’t been successful at finding those previous efforts. I’m also
smart enough to know that I can’t be the only one out there who feels
like she is routinely reinventing what should have, and probably was,
already discovered, documented, and discussed. Old information is
*definitely* welcome; this is about sharing information, not
(necessarily) sharing new information.
This is a preliminary call for submissions for a pamphlet or zine, to
be distributed as widely as possible in every and any format
available, with very humble goals: to start a conversation about how
trans women are having sex. This is meant to be a conversation that
includes trans women and our lovers. It can be as specific as you
like, and it is NOT a problem if you want to contribute anonymously.
All sorts of contributions would be and will be valued, including
drawings and schematics (!!!), sex stories about good sex, essays,
“what to do” and “what not to do” lists, safer sex guides, … anything
really, but with the acknowledgment that while a lot of us will learn
something about ourselves or find some really helpful advice, there’s
no *one way* to fuck a trans lady, any more than
there’s any *one way* to fuck anyone else. Our goal should be to learn
as *many ways* to have good sex as possible.
The first issue of this zine will be distributed electronically and in
print by request; submissions are due *really really soon*: July 21st
for the first issue, which will be released August 1st, no matter how
much or how little content has been collected.
Please send your contributions to M. Darling at: fistycupcake@gmail.com
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i’m not sure how i feel about it either. it IS odd that this should appear just as I’m writing …basically something almost expressly for this purpose.
but. if you were to cover up the word “trans”… does it seem a little problematic to you?
i haven’t made up my mind. i think this sort of thing needs to exist, but i’m not sure it should be called “how to fuck a trans woman.” i don’t really like that idea. at all.
It seems like a dialog that definitely needs to be going on. I agree with em, though, that it’s got a weird title that doesn’t seem to describe the intent.
as said above i feel a good dialogue is necessary, and helpful, but i’m not such a fan of that title. it made me feel a bit like a piece of meat, as opposed to taking part in a comfortable forum for talking about the ups and downs (pun intended) of my sex life, as the author had noted as the intended purpose of the pamphlet/zine/discussion.
maybe something like, “how to be intimate with a transwoman”?
Hrm. I have some memory of a How To F*ck a Trans Man zine. Hmm can’t really recall the conversations that went around about it….was that the one with the really fucked up SOFFA? (She self-identified as SOFFA.)